Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide To Men, Sex, And Love's Deepest Bliss

Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide To Men, Sex, And Love's Deepest Bliss

David Deida

Every girl is familiar with the fairy story: locate the suitable guy, supply him what he needs and wants, and he will love you without end. but if the parable you have been requested to think fails to deliver—when you feel you have been settling for much under you recognize on your middle is possible—how do you allure and continue a guy in a position to assembly what you such a lot passionately yearn for?

In Dear Lover, David Deida explores each point of the female perform of religious intimacy, from sexuality and lovemaking to kin and profession to feelings, belief, and dedication. Written as a set of letters from a guy to his expensive lover, here's this the world over acclaimed writer's invitation to perform love as a dwelling paintings, as you discover:

  • Why your guy is often your choice—and easy methods to choose the fellow of deep integrity who will fulfill the wishes of your physique, center, and spirit
  • “Sexual essence” and the 3 phases of loving:  how you can comprehend your fluctuating capability to event divine reference to another
  • Knowing while to finish a courting and the way to house the “him-shaped void” your absent guy leaves behind
  • Daily workouts that can assist you and your associate movement from separation to openness in two-bodies devotional trust

eventually, what each girl wishes it to provide and obtain love fully.  even if you’re partnered or on my own, Dear Lover reveals that “your love is similar love that years to open at everybody’s heart.  you are going to allure and encourage a guy as prepared and ready to open as you are.  consistent craving is the decision to open and provides your self to all as love’s offering.”
1.  you're Love
2 . Chocolate Love
three. craving Is the foremost to Love
four. The reward of creating Love
five. religious Sexiness
6.  Orgasmic Love
7.  Love and Fear
8.  Your Sexual Essence
9.  Your actual middle and Its Shells
10.  providing or Betraying Your Heart
11.  The Two-Bodied Play of Love
12.  Loving greater Than Fear
13.  Trusting Your guy to Open You
14.  You allure Your Reciprocal
15.  Why males carry Back
16.  Your strength of Attraction
17.  Your guy is Your Choice
18.  Expressing excitement and Hurt
19.  Masculine Insensitivity
20.  tips to remain Open
21.  commencing past an Impasse
22.  finishing Relationships and the Him-Shaped Void
23.  3 levels of Loving
24. Love is a dwelling Art
25.   displaying Your Heart’s mild in Public
26.  identifying Abuse and Refusing Love
27.  eager to Be Opened
28.  A precis of Trusting and Opening
29.  Goodbye


pricey Reader,
I supply the subsequent chapters to you as though you have been my lover.  even though you'll be unmarried or married, I supply those phrases to you as i might do my beloved.  We may well by no means meet, yet i would like to offer you the chance to suppose your middle via mine.
For years, i've got taught workshops around the globe, starting with men and women whereas they proportion their private heart’s desires.  it kind of feels we frequently come to grasp ourselves so much deeply in the course of the center of somebody who loves us, who's prepared to open and notice us as we really are, who's keen to hear and believe our heart’s yearning.
to provide and obtain love fully—this is our heart’s actual wish, yours and mine. The craving you're feeling on your center is identical craving that everybody feels.  through feeling your heart’s craving via 9, i'm hoping you'll come to understand your self extra deeply in the course of the many hearts that experience opened jointly in belief and allowed those phrases to emerge.
All hearts are looking to open to God, or the boundless circulate of divine love.  you could or is probably not a non secular individual, and nonetheless your center years to open with out bounds, to be obvious and to be provided with out limits.  this can be what I suggest through “open to God”—to open and believe every little thing and everyone’s middle as a divine expression of love.

Praise for Dear Lover

“In the realm of sacred intimacy, David Deida is retaining a lightning bolt.  He sheds an impressive light.”
—Marianne Williamson, Author of A Woman’s Worth
“As a girl, I’ve by no means felt so understood and validated.  ultimately, a transparent and outstanding advisor to unraveling the secret of relationships.”
—Marci Shimoff, Co-author of the hot York instances bestseller Chicken Soup for the Woman’s Soul
“I think that Deida has reached a brand new point of poetic genius in his writing, and his knowing of female psychology astounds me.”
—Miranda Shaw, PhD.  writer of Passionate Enlightenment:  ladies in Tantric Buddhism
“We all flavor God, flavor Goddess, flavor natural spirit in these moments of sexual rapture, and clever women and men have consistently used that rapture to bare Spirit’s innermost secrets.  David Deida is this type of clever one.”
—Ken Wilber, Author of Grace and Grit

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